Have you ever thought about what the effects would be if you were to resist changing the current situation you were in? Worst case scenario is that some victims have absolutely no means necessary to escape—their abuser controls everything. Some are financially bound and there are those who are too afraid of their abuser to take the leap of faith. In this article, I’m going to describe what happens to you emotionally, physically and spiritually when you resist escaping your abuser.
Many may not like to talk about or disregard their emotions. But when you don’t express them, it can be extremely damaging. The most popular effect would be a depressed state and the inability to control your emotions. For example, you may lash out at someone that tries to help you. It may feel better to be cooped up or overindulging in unhealthy behaviors such as drinking or gambling. Essentially, this will lead to an unstable emotional state. It may lead to not trusting yourself which will make things worse. Remember that your emotions are always valid and there’s nothing wrong with having them. It’s what makes you human.
It has been scientifically proven that trauma can affect the body. Your body is meant to “fight or flight” and when you don’t “flight,” your body sends out all these stress signals and pretty much makes itself sick. That’s where diseases and chronic pain comes in. Basically, if you don’t deal with your trauma, it’ll affect your body in ways that will hurt you in the long run and can lead to death faster. Avoiding your trauma won’t make things better, it’ll make them worse.
This topic I hold near and dear to my heart because when I was going through my abuse, I had lost faith in my spirituality. It could happen to anyone because the fact that you’re going through such torture makes you lose faith in whatever you believe in. You start to believe the fact that whatever higher being you believe in is allowing you to be in this situation and is failing to help you get out of it. But in all honestly, it’s up to you to take the first step. That inner voice that tells you to take the first step is your higher being helping you. You just have to be brave enough to take action.
If you don’t try and escape your abuser, the lingering effects of trauma will lead to an emotional distress state, possibility of disease and chronic pain and spiritual depletion. Just remember that you have the power to find your will to escape the trauma. Don’t let your abuser or anyone tell you otherwise. Just believe your inner voice. It’ll tell you exactly what to do. Be safe and I love you.
- NCBI (Chapter 3): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/
- Anchorpoint (Blog): https://www.anchorpointcounselingministry.org/2021/03/25/how-does-trauma-live-in-the-body/
- WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/emotional-trauma-mind-body-connection
- Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201701/why-we-resist-change
- Wellnest (Blog): https://www.wellnest.ca/post/the-harm-of-spiritual-trauma